An Indulgent Weekend of Memories
I recently sojourned back to my hometown for a doubleheader of social event - the wedding of my oldest friend and my 10-year high school reunion.
The wedding was seriously one of the best I've ever attended. Held at a local park, there was only close family and friends, maybe 45 people at most. Everyone sat down to a picnic-style lunch and then they had their ceremony. Everything was simple, refreshing, and meaningful. A perfect example that weddings don't have to be a big production.
|Simple but tasty cake and cute homemade table decorations|
|Wild flowers formed the ceremony centerpieces|
It was also a good lesson in judging people. When you come from a small town and you're one of the few who has moved away, you tend to think that you've escaped the shackles of stagnation and gone on to something better. It's easy to look down on those who have never moved away from their place of birth, particularly when you see the town never changing.
But as I listened to my classmates who are still locals, I grew to understand and respect their decisions. They talk about how their families are still there, aging relatives need a helping hand, they found jobs like anyone else, they have a strong network of friends, and it's a good place to raise a family.
In addition to my magazine job, I also teach several times a year for a private Iowa university. I made this connection when we lived back in Cedar Falls and I now split my teaching duties between the Cedar Rapids and the Waterloo centers. I generally teach four courses a year (8-week schedule) and classes are offered sporadically. Because students don't always need what I can teach (gen. ed.), my services aren't required on a routine basis.
I love teaching. Anyone who knows me can tell you teaching isn't a skill of mine, it's a personality trait. There's many ways to become a teacher, but I've always gravitated to it naturally. It's just a part of me that needs to thrive.
|In my head, I hope I'm as interesting as McGonagall and not laughable like Trelawney (source)|
This means that I had to create these classes from scratch - everything from lectures and PowerPoints to in-class activities and worksheets. Not to mention the very structure of the course - assignments, text list, reading schedules, grading rubrics. I'll be all the more prepared the next time I teach these courses, but preparing for these has certainly demanded more of my attention than I was counting on.
I'm also teaching two courses right now when I normally do one at a time. With a 4.5-hour night class, that means two of my evenings are completely accounted for and one involves a 2-hour roundtrip commute.
Luckily, I have awesome students and they never seem to have a clue when I'm feeling less than competitent because I'm in new terrain or I'm a touch frazzled because I'm working two jobs at once.
Fun with Friends
As I move into the second half of this deployment, my social schedule is much more managable. It's true that most weekends I have something on the calendar, but it usually only involves one of my days and not the entire weekend. The activities are usually low-key as well.
For example, I went on my first scrapbooking retreat earlier this month. Some girlfriends and I rented a local place that was for quilting/crafts marathons and provided cute sleeping quarters. It was nice to not go far but feel you were somewhere else.
|Mine looks NOTHING like this (source)|
I scrapbooked in college but haven't touched anything in five years despite collecting odds and ends from trips and weddings along the way. Certainly had enough material to work with!
I find that while I don't gain any concrete pleasure from scrapbooking, like it would be something I was in the mood to do, it is an easy way for my brain to shut off and my hands to stay busy. It's relaxing and helps me to slow down.
Work + Life Balance
As I struggle to keep my schedule and sanity in check, I am implementing a new rule - weekend activities can only demand one full day of my time. For example, I will be visiting my sister in several weeks. I will go up on a Friday and come back on a Saturday, leaving all of Sunday to myself.
I find that I really need a solid day or an uninterrupted half day to just be spontaneous, to have no demands or schedule, and to simply be a home relaxing. I become irritable when my life is really scheduled and I'm always on the go, which has pretty much been the last couple of months. This restores a touch of balance to keep me recharged for the next round of must-dos and take-care-of-this-nows.
Movies/TV Watched Lately
Citizen Kane, Some Like It Hot, Guess Who's Coming To Dinner?, and Silence of the Lambs (all for the film class I'm teaching)
We're Not Married (Marilyn Monroe)
Scrubs - now halfway through Season 5 (thank you Netflix and 25-minute episodes)
Rita Hayworth and the Shawshank Redemption (class)
The Apt Pupil (also Stephen King, for pleasure)
The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks (amazing book, also for class)
The Hunger Games (re-reading for class)
The Help (you guessed it, for class)
The Outliers (have borrowed from a friend for too long and need to finish stat!)
On the shelf - The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo (patiently waiting in line) and Shadow of Night (resisting the temptation to start because I know I won't be able to put it down!)
How is your summer going along?